How rewarded do you feel when your kids say “Thanks!” and really mean it?
Thanksgiving and the winter holidays have always felt like the season of kindness and generosity. But how do we get our kids to really feel thankful down deep, and give thanks in ways that make others feel great?
Instead of making thanks a chore, let’s transform gratitude into a fun way for kids to engage. Here are some things to try:
Get Creative with Delivery
Thank You Notes with a Twist: Let your kids go wild with the thank you notes this year. Make a project out it—clear off the kitchen table and set out drawing supplies, stickers, even glitter (if you’re ultra-brave). Decorate that paper like you mean it, and make your kids feel proud to leave their stamp on the thank yous!
Video Thank Yous: You’re probably way ahead of this, but having your kids call or FaceTime with family is a great avenue to send thanks. Kids can act out a scene, create a slideshow with pictures, or simply record a heartfelt message. When they see the smiles that their gratitude brings it recharges the circuit, helping bring more thankful energy into the world.
Gamify Gratitude
Thank You Jar: Decorate a jar and encourage your child to write down things they are grateful for each day. At the end of the week, read them aloud together.
Gratitude Bingo: Create bingo cards with different acts of kindness or things to be grateful for. When your child witnesses or experiences one, they mark it off. A full card earns a small reward (movie night, ice cream night, fun for all).
Point System: Award points for “thank yous” that are genuine, spontaneous and sincere. Accumulated points can be redeemed for privileges like extra screen time, a special outing or a small toy. (Remember to focus on the positive reinforcement, not the punishment for forgetting.)
Lead by Example
Children learn by observing. Make a conscious effort to express your own gratitude regularly. Let them see you write thank you notes, tell people how much you appreciate their help, and express appreciation for everyday things.
Connect Gratitude to Experiences
Volunteer Together: Participating in community service instills empathy and appreciation for others’ contributions. (Black Belt leadership projects are a partnership experience serving communities on a grand level, but everyday experiences in karate show chances to give gratitude).
Be Mindful of Little Gifts: Encourage your kids to pause and appreciate small joys in their day – the taste of a favorite snack, the warmth of the sun, the laughter of a friend.
Keep a Gratitude Journal: A simple journal dedicated to writing down things they’re thankful for can be a powerful tool for developing gratitude.
Remember the “Why”
Turning “thank you” from a mundane task into a fun and meaningful activity strengthens gratitude as a character trait. By making it engaging and enjoyable, you are not just teaching good manners, you are cultivating a heart full of appreciation.
Happy Thanksgiving and Happy Holidays from everyone at Ripple Effect Martial Arts.
